From: Stuart Lawler <stuart_at_stuartlawler.ie>
Date: Sun, 21 Jun 2009 22:23:10 +0100

Paul,

I don't think anyone minds being reminded of the rules, but I think the way
in which you remind people and the way in which you are always perceived, at
least from my reading, to be rather severely enforcing them does get people
a little worked up.

Regards,

Stuart


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From: rockbox-bounces_at_cool.haxx.se [mailto:rockbox-bounces_at_cool.haxx.se] On
Behalf Of Paul Louden
Sent: 20 June 2009 15:06
To: Rockbox; Rockbox development
Subject: Apology, and a period of break.

Apparently I'm too arrogant for my own good. Or something. It's not
something I understand, and that's why I'm writing this.

I write posts that, if received, I would read, nod, say "okay" and not get
angry about. At least the vast majority of the time. I can think of maybe
three instances where I've written an email or forum posting that I've
looked back on and thought "I shouldn't have done that." But I get a very
negative response, it seems more and more constantly.

It's becoming somewhat clear to me that I'm not able to relate with normal
people in a reasonable way. I lack the basic understanding of how people
will read "tone" in things I type, where for me they're written word and
should be read based on the specific meanings rather than anything implied.
The latter method seems to depend too much on the emotions and even specific
mood a time of reading of the user.

To everyone I've upset. I'm sorry. It's not my intention. I know you don't
believe this, and at this point I know there's nothing I can really say that
will make you believe this. It's that whole "emotional context" thing that I
don't really get. I can't say I'm sorry for my behaviour, since I don't
understand why it upsets people. This is something I'll work on. I'm
genuinely sorry that I have upset you though, for whatever reason.

So I'm taking a break from active Rockbox participation. I'm resigning from
forum administration. I won't be posting on these mailing lists unless it's
a matter I think is extremely important, since my sincere efforts to
investigate ways to improve Rockbox seem to just backfire.
Since I'm resigning from the steering board too, congratulations to Thom
Johansen who, I guess very briefly, was the first backup if I understand
correctly.

I'll still be in IRC though there, like everywhere else, I'll be trying to
keep my mouth shut as much as possible.

Once I understand whatever it is I don't understand right now (I can hardly
say what it is, since if I knew it probably wouldn't be the apparent problem
that it is) I'll try to be more active. But since I'm basically kicking
myself back down to "simple user" status it means other people can decide
whether I'm going to present a negative face to the project, rather than
them currently being in the rather unenviable position of probably having to
decide if the negative face I'm presenting is bad enough for them to have to
strip from me the various positions I seem to have stumbled into.

I can't promise I'll be silent. I am after all human. But I can promise that
if something does inspire me to speak up, you're just arguing with another
annoying user now and not someone who some people, apparently, may see as
one of the "public faces" of Rockbox. I'm no longer a member of the project,
and am now just a user like everyone else.
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